I have very much wondered through my life whose feelings and good time matters the most? For so long in my life I have always made other people’s feelings come first. So even if it meant me staying home alone on a weekend, I would not make other people invite me alone. If someone didn’t want to do what I wanted to do, when deciding what movie to watch or where to go, I would go with them. I thought I would rather one of us have a bad time then both of us. I thought I was being the bigger man in giving up what I wanted to let other people have a good time. Or a final example is that I would keep my true feelings hidden so that other people could feel better about themselves.
Lately I wonder if that is the right thing to do? I have often not said how I felt so that the other person would not feel guilty or pressured into something. But should have I? Should I hid who I am or how I feel so that other’s feel better about themselves? Should I hold it in when people hurt my feelings so that they still have a good time?
What makes your feelings so much more valuable then mine? Now I know that sometimes we are not justified in how we feel, but yet other times we are. So if I am hurting, as a friend should I not be able to tell you that? Why should I have to hid the hurt inside as it festers and infects my life? I thought friends should be understanding, willing to help their friends when they are down and hurting? Or am I just wrong about friendships and feelings? Needing a new definition and book on proper etiquette on both?
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